存在-人本主义在中国的一系列活动已渐近尾声,我们依依惜别同道,重新回到咨询室,和来访者一起直面我们的“存在”。“孤独”与“无助”仍常到访,这样的时刻,我会想起 Dr. Michael Moats 在工作坊上分享的这首他写的诗,送给大家。


I See You
我看到了

You are here at an important moment in time.
Silence holds the feelings unspoken.
Silence, gaze, emotion, and wonder.
I see you.
你在重要的时刻及时出现。
感情无法表达,沉默无言。
寂静,凝视,情动,好奇。
我看到了。

What are you thinking?
What are you feeling?
You are human.
I see you.
你在想什么?
你在感受着什么?
你也是人。
我看到了。

I feel your anxiety.
I feel you stir.
There it is, a shift.
I see you.
我能感受你的焦虑。
我能觉察到你的不安。
就在那里,有了转机。
我看到了。

You feel helpless.
You wish for movement.
You desire change.
I see you.
你觉得孤立无援。
你希望生活更加多彩。
你心中渴望改变。
我看到了。

You hide behind your defenses.
Connection desired,
But you cannot move.
I see you.
你筑起心墙,藏起自己。
渴望联结,
却又无能为力。
我看到了。

Your fear blinds you
Your words, empty
Your actions misguided
I see you.
恐惧遮蔽了你的双眼
语言苍白无力
行动毫无方向
我看到了。

How long will we dance?
How long before you see
We are much closer than you know.
I see you.
能有多少时间与你共舞?
要多久你才会明白
我们原比你以为的更亲近
我看到了。

Will you bare your soul
And allow me to touch you?
Will you allow me to stir growth?
I see you.
可否向我敞开胸怀
让我触摸你的灵魂?
可否让我,助你成长?
我看到了。

Your burdens are heavy,
And you grow weary with time.
You are unaware.
I see you.
你的负担沉重不堪
时间流逝,你渐感疲倦
而你却毫无觉察。
我看到了。

If only you could see the source of discomfort.
If only you could allow yourself to experience connection.
Change, growth, and progress would cease to be merely words.
I see you.
只有当你可以直视痛苦的根源。
只有当你允许自己去经验与人的联结。
改变,成长和进步,便不再是空话。
我看到了。

You do as you are told
As you travel the path of redundancy.
When will you see
I see you?
在冗长无趣的旅程中,
你逆来顺受。
何时你才知道
我看到了?

Transparent barriers to keep you safe
Disbelief in my ability to touch you
So much potential
I see you.
你用透明的屏障守护自己
不相信我能够了解你
如此大的潜力
我看到了。

Do you have the courage
To lay it all down?
How it could be so different
If you could just see me.
你是否有勇气
把这一切放下?
若你也能看到我
一切会有多么不同。

I am your client,
And I see you.
我是你的来访者,
我看到了。

Michael Moats
麦克·慕慈
2009年11月9日

我看到了》有13个想法

  1. When I felt lonely and powerless in the session room, this poem helped a lot. Thank you Michael for showing us how to work with our feelings. And, I learned how to use the silence to work too. I am practising.

    1. Glad to hear it, Summer! Life is practice, so I am glad to see you are open to the continual engagement of practice. Thank you, again, for all of your hard work that made our trip a wonderful interaction and experience!!

  2. Michael,
    Thank you so much.
    I love your style,your smile,they are so real, tender and warm.
    I love your shy too.
    This poem is very beautiful,also guide and remind me to feel and see the client.
    I am easily moved everytime when reading it.
    I love you@@.

    1. Thank you, Jenny! When we can remember that there are two people in the room, not just therapist and client but two very human people, we can begin to see each other much clearer.

  3. The poem is warm!
    Michael, I usually have a strong feeling that I don’t want to die ,I love this world and Don’t want to go. I afraid of being alone and forgotten. Had you have this kind of feeling?

    1. Yilia,
      Death anxiety is a very natural part of living. Sometimes it can become overwhelming, and sometimes there is a certain level of acceptance. My thought is that it might be helpful to talk to someone about what you are experiencing, but I would recommend a private setting. One thing that can happen is that we become so afraid of dying that we forget to live during the time that we have.

  4. Hello,Michael! I ,a chinese girl ,am just a grade 2 student in college .And I am major in psychology .So until today ,my knowledge of psychology is limited ,of which I cannot understand the poem you have written .
    What confuses me a lot is the role you play in the poem ,a consultant or a client ?I think the poem is personality and beautiful ,I like it .So I expect that you can analyse it for me .Thank you .

    1. It is purposefully twisting the perspective to prove the point that the same message could be seen from either perspective. I began writing this and was reflecting on feeling stuck with a client when I came to the end and realized that it may be the exact way she felt about me. The poem primarily is written from the therapist’s perspective, but the ending switches it to purposefully cause us to stop and think. I am glad you enjoyed it.

    1. 史俊,
      I actually believe it is both, a perpetual journey of leaving the old in search of the newer and deeper understanding of the other, the self, and the relationship. Thank you for your comment!

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